End of week 3: Nonverbal Communication In The Organization.

MAYBE SOMETIMES WORDS JUST AIN'T ENOUGH:


Say what? Who’s saying things? Who’s saying nothing? Who’s saying something by doing nothing? Man, I’m confused, or am I?

Non-verbal communication, what’s the first thing that comes to mind when you see this sentence? That we can’t talk? That we don’t need to talk? That people shows signs of content to express how they feel, like using the middle finger and whatnot? :O

Well readers, non-verbal communication is all about pressing the MUTE button on life, making sure that all expressions are expressed not through our voice and not from the mouth :]

Non-verbal communication then includes facial expressions, eye contact, and the tone of voice, body posture as well as motions, and also positioning within groups. It may also include the way we wear our clothes or the even the deafening silence we keep.

The most common ways of non-verbal communication would be through the usage of Facial Expressions:

How do we giveaway a facial expression and still portray a meaning? Well, what I can tell you is, a smile, frown, raised eyebrow, yawn, and even a sneer all convey information, I’m not even kidding, people do it for a reason, and that is either because they can’t talk or too lazy to talk or to be sarcastic or even give the silent treatment but with HINTS. Facial expressions constantly changes during interaction and are always monitored and observed relentlessly by the recipient or other people who’s observing. There is evidence that the meaning of these expressions may be similar across cultures, then again different cultures bring different meanings to their facial expression. So what do we do? We DEAL with it! Seeing there is nothing better we can do anyway.

People at work/college/school are always giving away non-verbal communication, why that happens we’ll never know why, WHY WE THINK THAT HAPPENS, well I guess we can always assume the fact that people are all lazy. We don’t like talking, even when we do, we still give out non-verbal expressions to make a conversation even more interesting. Then again, people are always creative with their non-verbal expressions; they think it makes them mysterious and sexy to not say anything, but to show signs of communication through other expressions. Interesting topic indeed, as much as a stare is just a stare, a stare now means something else, it can mean that you’re rude or a creep, then again, it can also mean that you admire the things surrounding you, for example, I normally stare at my crush, and when she asked me why I’m starring at her, I’ll just say “I’d admiring BEAUTY”.. HOHOHO… lolz.

People also use Non-verbal communication to be different.. For example random groups come up with their own personal handshakes or even ways of communication through different expressions. In addition, people tend to use non-verbal communication to curse or to express signs of discontent. As weird as the world may look and be, non-verbal communication is considered an art :] Just check out mimes, people who do mimes and people who dance, :] it’s all about the BODY LANGUAGE!


Story time:

Someone once asked me, “How many languages do you know?”
You know what I told that person? I said THREE! “I know English, Bahasa Melayu and BODY! BODY LANGUAGE!”… haha :D

End of week 3: Effective Listening

Whose Listening to you, me, and them? Is anyone even listening? The Question is, who even listens nowadays?

In this modern era, just about everyone earnestly believes that he or she listens, better yet, effectively.

In such a way, due to their very own self-assumption critique, very few people think they need to develop and improve their listening skills. Being a hypocrite you may say? I don’t know. Why don’t you be the one to tell me?

Listening effectively is something that only a handful of us can accomplish, seriously, not everyone has the ability to do it. It's not because listening effectively is somewhat a very difficult task to do, but it’s just that most of us have just never developed the practice and lifestyle that would make us all GREAT 'effective listeners'!

Then again, it is believed that through listening effectively, you will be able to gain more information from the people you administer, and you will inevitably increase other peoples’ trust in you, not only that, you will also be able to reduce the amount of conflict that normally occurs in this ever changing world, and you will better understand how to motivate others in so many ways possible, as well to possess the skills and qualities needed to inspire a higher level of commitment in the people you want to manage..

Story time:

So I have these two friends.. Jesper and Joey, they are the two most craziest friends a guy can ever have. So their skill of effective listening was put to a test when it came to a scene where they were making a bet at Some Cafe' back in Kota Kinabalu Sabah. So Jesper had this empty bottle in his hand and went up to Joey and said "Hey Jo, what would you give me if i can hop in-to the bottle? coz dude, I can!".. So Joey told him "Dude if that's even possible, I would buy you a glass of milkshake!".. You know what Jesper did? He put the bottle at the front of the door, walked out of the Cafe'.. and a few second later, he HOPPED into the Shop, and infront of the bottle, and said "There I did it!".. And Joey was like "Huh? You didnt Hop INTO THE BOTTLE!"... Jesper simply replied "I didn't say "INTO", i said IN-TO.. I was outside, so i HOPPED IN in the shop, and TO the Bottle.. Basically I used the words 'IN' and 'TO'.. So therefore, I hoped in to the bottle, so now u owe me a MILKSHAKE!!"..

Weird, but smart.. Technically Joey wasn't paying attention to what Jesper was saying, either that or he was simply using the act of ASSUMPTION.. The act of assuming that Jesper meant INTO instead of 'IN' and 'TO'.. Therefore, it is always important to listen effectively :]

Fruit for thought:

Why do people wanna be an effective listener? Is it because they think it's cool? Because they wanna be accepted? Because your LECTURER asked you to? Hmm... Well why is the sky sometimes blue? How high is up? Whatever happened to Amelia Earheart? Like how theres no answer to these questions, we can't question the human mind either, people have cravings and desires all the time, the question is, how to be an effective listener? Well lemme' tell you :]

1) An individual himself/herself has to have a strong passion and desire to be a better listener
2) Stop talking too much!
3) Start looking at the speaker instead of diverting your view! :O
4) Don't let your emotions get the worst of you (learn to control man!)
5) Leave no room for distractions, so don't multi-task while tryna Listen!
6) Try to get the main point and idea the speaker is trying to deliver yo!
7) Don't think too much or have bad thoughts about the person in your mind, BAD! BAD!
8) Try to listen and discover the "HIDDEN MESSAGE", whatever that is not said
9) Seriously, Don't Jump to conclusions ok
10) Don't judge the speaker negatively at the first impression!
11) Try to recognize your own prejudice

THere's no guarantee this will help, but hey, don't say I didn't Try :]

End of Week Two..

ORGANIZATIONAL COMMUNICATION
iMproVinG InTeRperSoNaL ReLaTionShipS..

Hey there readers.. :] So sorry for the late post, I've been really-really-really busy, like any other humanbeing out there, I still have flaws, so I am seriously EXTREMELY SINCERELY sorry FRom the Bottom of My Teenage [Going to adulthood soon] HEART.. ;]

So what am I gonna touch on in this post of mine? Organizational Communication, Improving Interpersonal Relationships.. Hmm.. interesting topic.. Wish I attended the first few classes, but, sadly I was still back in Sabah due to personal matters, nonetheless, I'm gonna try my best to improvise and make this post pretty much an interesting thing to read about okay, I won't let y'all down.. :]

The world itself is a big organization, it's all about communication in this huge playfield. Well atleast that's how I see it as, as a big playground, you have so many kids playing around, all from different walks of life, all with different cultures and believes, and that's what makes each and everyone of us a unique individual :]

It's all about learning to communicate in an organization, In the classroom, outside the classroom, at work and etc.

Is it easy? It may not be easy, but it can be SIMPLE.. the idea itself can be simply, it's just a question of whether we're willing to commit ourself into understanding others and adjusting our lifestyle to fit-in. It's about sacrifices, and it's definitely about a group effort rather than an individual thing :]

First and foremost, when you see the sentence "Interpersonal Relationship", what comes to mind? A boyfriend and girlfriend having a relationship? People having affairs? People having imaginary friends? Married couples having something special? Something magical perhaps? Well an interpersonal relationship basically means uinion or socialization between two or even more people at an instance which may vary from being momentary to even being permanent.

From my understanding, interpersonal relationship is something special you develop with someone that matters most to you, a friend, a family member, someone you're even into.. Basically it's a bond you and the other person form that ties you two together.. And this bond is a form of devotion and trust towards one another, like how rings represent love and devotion in one's marriage.

How does one improve one's interpersonal relationship then? Well it all depends on every individual's style.. Not everybody share the same mindset.. Not everybody believes in the same concept.. Coz everybody has their own style, their own way of working things out and their own way of expressing themselves. So from what I can tell you based on my very own experience, how do I improve Interpersonal Relationships? I use the term "APPRECIATION"... Appreciation is the main keyterm in making an interpersonal relationship work.. It's a culture, and it definitely needs to be nurtured. When you learn to appreciate someone, you tend to have a level of UNDERSTANDING.. a level of ACCEPTANCE... you accept a person for who they are and what they're worth.. When you learn to accept someone for who they are, you are improving interpersonal relationship, not only that, you are abolishing all possibilities to criticize, to judge without knowing, to be in contempt with, as well as to be pissed off at :]

Interpersonal Relationship does not only work on a single-path basis... It's a two way thing. You can't be self-centered and think that the world revolves around you.. We have to always potray and secrete postive attitudes towards eachother for intercultural relationships to work. You must know who your partnet is, and hence, by giving in and allowing yourself to be comfortable around them will allow them to get to know the real you. RESPECT is important, always respect your partner and you will receive the fruits that you bear.

Last but not least, to improve Interpersonal Relationships, you must be willing to give in.. To give in to the harshess that may trap you and your partner. Misscommunication, bad people, evil, can sometimes can get it the way, but its all maintanence, the willingness to fix a problem, to see something as a flaw and accepting that nobody's perfect and that by complaining, we do not accomplish anything at all, accept the chance of losing someone close to us. So when times like these gets us down, all we have to do is to look up, to keep up our heads up high, to try find a solution and to embrace any opportunity for a better tomorrow and for a chance to patch things up with the ones that are close to us.

My closest Interpersonal Relationship would be between my family, my mum and dad, my 3 Elder sisters, my friends and the girl i'm seeing :]

You see, a man has always been seen a protector, and a woman is always seen as the person a man should protect.. Nobody knows why we do the things we do and why we say the things we say whenever we're mad.. It's life.. life's a mystery.. but what we know is that Love, Passion, Hate, Care, and Lust all exist, its for us to decide what makes us happy and content.. So there, improving intercultural relationships are a very important factor in making us complete in life.. Coz as much as we don't want to admit or believe it, We do need some happiness to make us feel fulfilled, and in most often than not, having to share it with someone special makes it even more worthwhile.. So go home today and tell the people that you care the most about that no matter what the obstacles that life may put you through, it's a maze which you have to go through to end up at the finish-line saying "I MADE IT".. and trust me, it's when you've accomplished something, you've actually begin to "LIVE"...

Thanx.. Till the next post, hope u we'rent bored :] Remember, appreciate your woman/man before someone else does.. :p yikes!

A Lil Something about me perhaps?

Hey there, So yea, this blog is strictly dedicated to and for my Organizational Communication Class.. Enjoy.. :]

Here's a lil' something you should know about me [if u haven't happen to know a single thing abt me that is]..

Hey, ok here GoeS, da Name's Nico jeRicHo jANuz KiLroy AuGusTiN.
To those who already know, then ok, u do.
Music Lover. I'm mix genre, so yea, anything that sooths the ears will do.
I think eccentricity flows in ma blood, the same goes for sarcasm (We're all humans).
A heart filled with desire.
I believe love is a risk but we all deserve one shot.
Leisure pursuit, I don't stick to one.
Well I'm into arts and graphic designs.
I have goals.
I'm spontaneous, so feel free to socialize.
I don't measure ignorance. I don't measure friendship.
If you're useless, then you are. If you're not, then you aint. Simple as that.
I tend to download unconventional behaviors every time I'm with crazy/wild and hardcore attitude friends.
I do what I feel like doing.
Mood wise, I still express sentiment.
Fear is never a factor.
Guitars rock, so do drums.
Poems and rhymes are my thing.
My closet is filled with black t-shirts [Don't ask, seriously, don't]
I live in a house filled with lotsa girls [Three Elder Sistas].
Mum, Dad, You guys are totally awesome.
I love weekends, they existed just at the right time.
I'm an expert at the sleeping game.
Wish I knew Spanish.
Wish I knew French.
I have habits, who doesn't?
Books, I read whatever rocks, they're just a bunch of papers pilled up into one cover.
Death, we don't plan it.
Whenever the sun sets, the night gets darker?
I love my Milo cold, and maybe ocasionally hot depending on the weather.
I think Manchester United is the BEST FOOTBALL TEAM EVERRR.. You can tell us to go to hell, well we are the Red Devils anyway. :]
Wanna be my friend, trust yourself before you trust me.
I don't believe in changing the past.
I believe you can make a discrepancy in life, kinda like what commercial ads normally tell you.
I try to accomplish as much things as I can in a day, trust me, they don't always turn out the way i want them to.
Home is where the magic happens.
You know what's oxygen? Well music's my breath of air.
I love my family, family is the one thing you should cherish.
Every day is enchanted.
Whenever I'm free, I'd normally love to day-dream [It's fun yo]
Spongebob Squarepants is something i'd definitely buy [T-shirts etc].
My crew, we roll, when one speaks, it's all honest.
I share the same birthday with 3 people I know (man what a twist of fate).
In terms of Honesty, I can't really assure you that I'm a hundred [percent] lie ex3mpted.
Qualms can haunt.
I'm getting pretty bored. So yea erm, Bye?
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