Whose Listening to you, me, and them? Is anyone even listening? The Question is, who even listens nowadays?
In this modern era, just about everyone earnestly believes that he or she listens, better yet, effectively.
In such a way, due to their very own self-assumption critique, very few people think they need to develop and improve their listening skills. Being a hypocrite you may say? I don’t know. Why don’t you be the one to tell me?
Listening effectively is something that only a handful of us can accomplish, seriously, not everyone has the ability to do it. It's not because listening effectively is somewhat a very difficult task to do, but it’s just that most of us have just never developed the practice and lifestyle that would make us all GREAT 'effective listeners'!
Then again, it is believed that through listening effectively, you will be able to gain more information from the people you administer, and you will inevitably increase other peoples’ trust in you, not only that, you will also be able to reduce the amount of conflict that normally occurs in this ever changing world, and you will better understand how to motivate others in so many ways possible, as well to possess the skills and qualities needed to inspire a higher level of commitment in the people you want to manage..
Story time:
So I have these two friends.. Jesper and Joey, they are the two most craziest friends a guy can ever have. So their skill of effective listening was put to a test when it came to a scene where they were making a bet at Some Cafe' back in Kota Kinabalu Sabah. So Jesper had this empty bottle in his hand and went up to Joey and said "Hey Jo, what would you give me if i can hop in-to the bottle? coz dude, I can!".. So Joey told him "Dude if that's even possible, I would buy you a glass of milkshake!".. You know what Jesper did? He put the bottle at the front of the door, walked out of the Cafe'.. and a few second later, he HOPPED into the Shop, and infront of the bottle, and said "There I did it!".. And Joey was like "Huh? You didnt Hop INTO THE BOTTLE!"... Jesper simply replied "I didn't say "INTO", i said IN-TO.. I was outside, so i HOPPED IN in the shop, and TO the Bottle.. Basically I used the words 'IN' and 'TO'.. So therefore, I hoped in to the bottle, so now u owe me a MILKSHAKE!!"..
Weird, but smart.. Technically Joey wasn't paying attention to what Jesper was saying, either that or he was simply using the act of ASSUMPTION.. The act of assuming that Jesper meant INTO instead of 'IN' and 'TO'.. Therefore, it is always important to listen effectively :]
Fruit for thought:
Why do people wanna be an effective listener? Is it because they think it's cool? Because they wanna be accepted? Because your LECTURER asked you to? Hmm... Well why is the sky sometimes blue? How high is up? Whatever happened to Amelia Earheart? Like how theres no answer to these questions, we can't question the human mind either, people have cravings and desires all the time, the question is, how to be an effective listener? Well lemme' tell you :]
1) An individual himself/herself has to have a strong passion and desire to be a better listener
2) Stop talking too much!
3) Start looking at the speaker instead of diverting your view! :O
4) Don't let your emotions get the worst of you (learn to control man!)
5) Leave no room for distractions, so don't multi-task while tryna Listen!
6) Try to get the main point and idea the speaker is trying to deliver yo!
7) Don't think too much or have bad thoughts about the person in your mind, BAD! BAD!
8) Try to listen and discover the "HIDDEN MESSAGE", whatever that is not said
9) Seriously, Don't Jump to conclusions ok
10) Don't judge the speaker negatively at the first impression!
11) Try to recognize your own prejudice
THere's no guarantee this will help, but hey, don't say I didn't Try :]
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